Anyways, Mildred was over yesterday and as usual made a fuss over the baby and the fussing continued when I got home from work. Nat was asleep and had apparently been asleep for 3-4 hrs and Mildred was trying to wake her up. I commented that Nat was probably tired from playing with her all afternoon but Mildred insisted on waking her up.
She proudly told me she carried the baby for a whole hour while she was asleep and said I was a bully when I said Nat could fall asleep on her own and didn't need me to carry her all the time. She also teasingly (or maybe she meant it) said I was mean when I didn't want to bring Nat for a car ride when Nick sent her home.
Personally I was too lazy to pack the diaper bag for the 20 min car ride, plus we had no more sterilised bottles...it would have been too troublesome. Nick himself tries to minimise the time Nat spends in the car as A) she doesn't use a carseat, and B) he doesn't feel the car is safe enough.
Mildred also hates making Nat sleep in her crib, preferring to lay her on ma's bed or mine. She thinks the mattress is too hard, I say nonsense! And when the baby so much as waves an arm or wriggles her fingers after being put down, she will immediately pick her up and say, "Oh poor thing, you want to be carried ah?". Any reason to carry her!
And, I knew she would ask me about the nursery rhyme CDs. When I said I only burned one out of the 3 she brought, she questioned why. I told her I didn't like the singing and she said I was fussy! But when I said Nick didn't like them either, she kept quiet. Yesterday she kept telling Nat, "Oh, your mummy bullies you," or "Oh, your mummy is so mean."
I wish she would respect the methods we are applying when it comes to babycare and not impose her way of doing things. She probably doesn't agree with half the things we do and blatantly undermines our efforts to not spoil Nat. We don't want to inculcate any bad habits and the 'training' starts now but it's not like we're some military regime. We still play and have fun with our child, but we want her to be independent and not needy. Otherwise all sorts of sleep, separation and feeding issues will crop up later, we want to minimise those!
Oh, and she keeps checking on whether I am still feeding Nat booby milk...saying that breast milk is best and comparing quantities with her friend who just gave birth and asking how come I claimed I had no supply in the early days when her friend was nursing immediately after birth. I had to tell her that was the colostrum bit her friend was feeding the newborn. Anyway, if I choose not to exclusively breastfeed Nat, that's my choice. She herself didn't nurse her two sons and I pointed out to her they turned out fine.